Clearly, the context in the dating space is grim, as Singapore faces an all-time-low TFR of 0.87. I'm not sure whether it's coincidental that markets are at an all-time high. But the dating market is already quite broken.
a) Maybe it's time to ditch dating apps
As I consume a lot of social media poison on Instagram, I sometimes get hilarious video snippets that explain what happened on their dates. And Gen Z guys on dating platforms these days are losers. Insisting on splitting the bill is fine, but more importantly, not being able to articulate career goals and bragging about commercial pursuits that mark you as a loser, drop-shipping or crypto trades.
I think there are many good guys out there, but maybe a dating app isn't the best place to find a guy. I still believe that to find guys with a high IQ and high conscientiousness, you need to search in institutions of higher education, then let assortative mating take care of itself.
b) Singlehood is the biggest hurdle a guy needs to overcome
Middle-aged wives can be brutal. When I was talking about online dating and younger Gen Z norms, they brutally reminded me that men these days no longer compete with each other; they compete against singlehood - and singlehood is winning.
So basically, a lot of women realise that singlehood is better than getting attached to a guy with the same attractiveness score, so they stay single and have a good life dodging kids and domestic stress.
I'm not sure that this argument applies just to women. While I know a lot of guys who can't apply themselves and have no sensible way to navigate their lives, I think single men have plenty of enjoyable options, too, with AI tools and entertainment. Fembots are a few years away, if not here already.
It was Boomer male who invented the phrase "Why buy the whole cow when all you want is just a glass of milk?"
c) There are a lot of beautiful women, but only a few successful men.
If I can advise Gen Z men, this is something I would say. Actually, if you are logical about it, this is a completely objective statement that is not misogynistic at all.
First of all, we have to accept that women are pickier, so their subjective standards of success will always lead to a smaller population of men, whereas men's flexible standards of female beauty can be quite wide, so the population of beautiful women will always be men who meet women's standards of success.
What does it mean? Everything that I've been talking about. Guys need to work on themselves and climb the ladder of success.
Many beautiful women are waiting for them once they reach the top.
Just ask the PropertyLim people.
Happy Chap Goh Meh!
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